What is the Temperature Play?

Your skin is full of temperature receptors that tell you when an object is hot or cold, so you can protect yourself from possible harm. These receptors are useful for, let's say, not getting burned in a hot kettle, but they're all great for your sex life when you're involved in playtime or temperature games.

The temperature game includes the use of heat or cold in your sex game. The idea behind this is that the temperature variation stimulates your neuroreceptors, and creates a wave of sensations in your body. You can use ice cubes, freeze sex toys, drip wax on your partner and much more as you engage in temperature play. The temperature game can be incorporated as a form of foreplay, during sex, and it can also be used as a way to relax after sex or a sexual experience.

How ​​to get started with the temperature game

The good thing about the temperature game is that it is multifunctional and fully adaptable to your needs. You can do it alone, in partnership, with a toy, without a toy, etc. The options are basically endless. But if you need suggestions on how to play with temperature, try any of these ideas:

• Oral sex after drinking cold water or hot tea
• Lick the ice cream off your partner's bare chest
• Cool a glass dildo before inserting it vaginally or anal
• Letting an ice cube melt on your partner's nipples
• Caressing your partner with a heated masturbator or vibrator
• Direct pressure with warm shower water on the vulva
• Get a sensual massage with hot oil/wax from a body-safe candle
• Heat or freeze a towel and place it around your partner's neck
• Using a heating or cooling lubricant

Tips and Tricks to Remember

Consent is always required before and during any sexual experience, but especially when hot or cold temperatures are involved. As the temperature game is probably considered eccentric to most people, it's always best to have a safe word that you and your partner share so they know they can revoke your consent at any time.

Another thing: read all the items you plan on playing with before starting. Check out the ingredients, especially for massage oils or lubricants, and learn how to use the product. For example, before trying to light a candle at home, know that most candles you burn at home are not safe for your body and will burn your skin. Better to buy massage candles specifically for sex play.

With the temperature game, you run the risk of burning yourself or your partner if things get a little too hot (and don't forget that frostbite can happen too). So be mindful of the temperatures, products and body locations you choose to play with.

Our suggestion is that before testing a product on your partner, test it on yourself first. Although your body or skin may react differently than theirs, testing a product on your hand before applying it to your partner's body can give you an idea of ​​what it would be like.

Activities with cold temperature:

Play with an ice cube

Ice can be used to massage nipples, inner thighs, neck or under breasts. You can also put a sliver of ice in his mouth (or sip from a glass of cold water) before kissing him or starting oral sex. The natural heat of your mouth along with the cold of the ice can trigger an arousing response. (Be sure to use a small piece of ice so you don't risk choking.)

Cool your sex toys

Did you know that you can put glass or stainless steel sex toys in the fridge to cool them down before using? Simply place them in the fridge or dip them in a glass of ice water to allow them to soak up the freshness before pleasureing you or your partner with them. You can also wear a blindfold to take the surprising aspects of the temperature game to the next level. Sales heighten the senses and create anticipation.

Bring some cold food

Lick the ice cream off your partner's nipples, testicles or any fun place. If you're not a fan of ice cream, you can use any other frozen treat. Try rubbing something on your partner's skin and his chest. So lick that sugary trail.

Switch between hot mouth and cold hands

Next time you have a sexual partner, have a bowl of ice water by your side. Dip your hands in there until they are ice cold. If you are having sex with someone with a vulva, use your hot tongue on the clitoris and penetrate her with cold hands. If you are performing oral sex on someone with a penis, use your hot mouth to suck the head of the penis and your cold hands to stimulate manually.

Hot temperature game activities

Hot oil massage

Try dripping hot oil on your partner's back and having an erotic massage. Massage oils don't heat up well in the microwave, so it's best to buy a massage oil warmer. An easier option is to buy a massage candle, where the flame ignites the hard wax in hot, molten massage oil. Light the candle 15-30 minutes before the massage, turn it off and then you have your oil.

Uses a warm-up sex toy

There are several male masturbators that heat up. You can use these toys alone or with a partner.

Explore the wax game

This involves dripping hot wax onto bare skin. There are massage and sex-specific candles specifically formulated to burn at lower temperatures than regular wax candles. You want to use these specific candles when having sex/engaging in wax games. Ordinary candles can be very hot and can burn your partner. Gently drip some hot wax on your partner's back and watch them squirm in pleasure.

Plays with fire with caution

Playing with fire involves having it next to or directly on a person's skin, including using candle flames close to a person's skin, pouring alcohol on the skin and lighting it, hitting the skin with a lit torch, or using a flaming whip or skin whip. Note: Playing with fire is very dangerous and requires several safety precautions, including wet towels or handy fire extinguishers.

What are the benefits of the temperature game?

While often associated with the kink game and BDSM, the temperature game is a great way for anyone to experiment during sex. As the temperature game requires all parties to be present and communicative, it's a healthy practice to stay connected with your sexual partner, extending foreplay and exploring each other's bodies.

Ultimately, it's a way to increase intimacy through trust, patience, and observation of your partner's body. It's also really fun to learn new ways to activate your body without directly touching your genitals or other erogenous zones. And while the temperature game can seem intimidating at first, whenever we are open to being vulnerable with our partners and adding new intimate experiences, we are more likely to improve our sex life.

So, if you want to improve your sexual connection with your partner or want to explore which hot and cold sensations turn you on, the temperature game is a great practice to improve your sexual relationship with yourself and with others. Ready to light up (or freeze) your sex life? These expert-approved tips and tricks will help you find creative ways to try out the temperature game:

Bonus temperature game activity

To really drive your partner crazy, try alternating between hot and cold temperatures to provide mixed sensations. A favorite is using hot wax and an ice cube to provide mixed sensations, sending your partner's senses to the limit trying to decide which is which and which sensation they love the most. A simpler alternative would be to grab a glass of ice water to dip your fingers in and then alternate between using your warm mouth and cold fingers on your partner during the oral.

What are safe sex best practices when trying the temperature game for the first (or 100th) time?

When engaging in any kind of BDSM prank or game, remember: safety and consent are paramount! Keep these safety tips in mind before trying out the temperature game with a partner:

• Use a safe word, so you and your partner can alert each other if/when things start to get overwhelming.
• Practice approaching the traffic light. One safety measure we recommend is the use of a traffic light - red, yellow and green. Red, of course, means stop. Yellow means slow down. And green means they can continue.
• Read the products you decide to use and watch videos on how to use them safely beforehand.
• Do not use ordinary candles to play with wax! You can burn yourself or your partner. With ice it's the same.
• Test the products on yourself or let your partner test the products for you before taking them to the bedroom.
• Keep food away from genitals. If you are going to use ice cream or any type of dairy product, do not use them on or near the vulva as there is a risk of infection.
• Communicate your action plan in advance. It is important that each partner knows what activities they plan to be involved in so that everyone can prepare mentally and physically and also give fully informed consent.

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